In my job as a personal stylist, I see so many women who hate their bodies. Maybe “hate” is too strong a word, dis-like? Don’t appreciate? Look at through negatively-tainted glasses? Can I let you in on a little secret? It actually made me cry the other day.

I got so upset that there are women out there who think they aren’t good enough, beautiful enough, clever enough – well I’m calling bullshit. You ARE good enough, beautiful enough and clever enough – you are ENOUGH as you are.

So much of the angst and negativity comes from inside our own heads – it’s actually nothing to do with what size you are. Check out my amazing friend, and fellow blogger Megan Kerr – she is the epitome of positive body image.

But I know it’s easier said than done sometimes.

Trust me, I’ve been there! Try shopping for a wedding dress, or working in an industry like the one I do (fashion), or having family members that are half your size. I’ve had my moments for sure. Sometimes I wish that my boobs were smaller, or my tummy was flatter, or my hair was blonde, but then working with all these amazing women (my wonderful styling clients) of all different shapes and sizes always brings me back down to earth, and makes me realise that my big boobs, and my little tummy and my brown hair are all parts of what make me the person that I am.

There’s also been a lot of bullying and aggression going around the NZ Twitter and blogosphere lately. Women being mean to other women, like we’re back in high school. It’s not on. But so much of this comes from a lack of self esteem and jealously. Well i’m over it. And everyone else needs to grow up and move on too.

your own grass

Why do women feel the need to cut down other women to make themselves look and feel better? We need to be lifting each other up – we’ll all get a lot further in life if we do don’t you think?

Want to feel better about how you look? Change what goes on in your head! Stop focusing on the negative things (on your body, in your life) and start thinking about the GOOD things!

This is where I want you to join in and play along with me in my #LoveMeForMe body love campaign.

Over on Facebook and Instagram I’ll be posting every day and I want you to join in!


Here’s how to play along;

1. Write something positive about yourself on a piece of paper, or post-it note (it can be physical, emotional, or something that you are proud of)

2. Take a selfie with your positive affirmation

3. Post it on your Instagram or Facebook (or you can post on MY facebook page here), use the hashtag #lovemeforme and tag me (@chasingcait) in on your post so I can see!

4. Check out other Instagrammers or Facebookers playing along with the #LoveMeForMe hashtag and offer them some positive support on their posts

5. You can do it every day, or just when you feel like it

Just like this…….


But remember, if you don’t feel like sharing online, you don’t have to! I’d still love you to play along at home. Maybe just write your positive affirmations on a post-it and stick it on your bathroom mirror. Get up the next day and be reminded of what you loved yesterday (or just start with what you like in general!) about yourself.

This isn’t about being the best, or getting the most likes, it’s about really changing the way you look at yourself – forget the haters (both internal and external) and starting to #LoveMeForMe

Saying that, I AM going to put myself out there on social media to try to inspire and empower others. I’m going to try to #LoveMeForMe and I’d love you to do the same.

I can’t wait to see what you all have to say!

Until Next Time,
In Love & Style Always